The Realities After Virtual Reality

Episode 5: David Burgess and Virtual Reality

In speaking on wasted money: “Well, I’ve thrown up more, on myself” -David.

David Podcast Bio:
David is a JMU Graduate, Virtual Reality Programmer and Ambassador, Semi-Spaniard, Rebel and part time Wolf-man impersonator. David has been programming VR programs for around 621 years now. He currently resides in Richmond.

Did ending slavery help to spark the need for the technological revolution?
Is progress just a series of waiting for old people to die?
How long before VR becomes more common at home?

David and I talk about not becoming our grandparents and becoming self-aware in the days where we all have enough of our needs met to actually worry about our desires. David even claims to be ‘well adjusted’. Hear about how Tim Sweeney helped to make the world of programming available to all creeds. We talk about how story telling helped to change the world, and how instant videos have now changed our views on ‘famous’ people. As we sit on the cusp of great change, listen to a man who might know what he’s talking about.
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Time Markers:
7:05 How did ending slavery help the computer revolution?
11:00 Seeing your friends become adults
15:32 How David got into computer programming
18:28 The early days of the internet
22:00 Old Hard drive
33:53 VR Self Made
36:30 The joy of playing for work
42:42 Robin Williams
44:40 Be constructively lazy
46:01 Algorithms are rule books
57:00 David says the podcast is fun
58:26 Too many books in the brain
1:00:00 How we used to tell stories
1:04:45 The mental implications of Virtual Reality
1:07:00 Pragmatism
1:08:15 Programming is problem solving
1:14:00 We discuss sports
1:23:00 The summer on crutches

Art of Living Like an Old Man

As you are looking for ways to best live an optimal life, I have one simple solution:

Start to live your life like an old man.
Find an old man that is effective in your life and take a look. Notice that when a person reaches a certain age they get to an area where they are in a preservation mode and that leads to them making the decisions which best lead to longevity. The smartest ones are the ones preparing for 50 years from now. Not for today. So why not start now?

Watch Your Back.
Ever hear of old men getting abdominal strains? Nope. That is because everyone works their abs, who doesn’t want a flat stomach? Start working your lower back now. You’ll be happy about it later.

Invest in Quality. 
He tends not to own many things, and those things which he owns are pretty great in quality. You will often hear an old man say, “I’ve had this scarf about 20 years now”. It is not because that man has some secret cryogenic box in which he stores the scarf. He purchased a good quality scarf. We should focus on only getting that which is necessary and that which is durable in quality. If you’re constantly buying the same object over and over again, then you’re buying shitty products. Quality does not always necessarily mean expensive, although admittedly it does appear to be the case more times than not. Remember, a symbol of status is not a representation of quality. Beats headphones might be a great marketing play, but a plain pair of Bose will give you better sound quality.

Eat What Fuels You. 
Don’t just buy like an old man, live like one. My grandma is in her 90’s and her diet has been the same for probably 30 years now (yes I’m aware she’s not an old man). She basically does what we all know we should do. Healthy fats (pecans/almonds/avocados) Hearty grains, some fruit, and a lot of leafy greens. She is a vegetarian so I would choose to add in a little protein as well but for the most part, she’s got it down. Once in a while she will break down and share a chocolate croissant, but it’s not an every day occurrence.

Watch Your Feet. 
How else do the old live? The protect their feet and their knees. We learn late in life we do not need to wash our hair each day (and certainly don’t need to rinse and THEN repeat). Stretch. Even how they use their feet. All moves with the body of an old man are deliberate. No waste.

Have a routine to some parts of life. Your morning is the best time for this. The old I know wake up, take their pills, and go through the motions. Assuming you’re not on too many medications, you can skip the pill step and go right onto breakfast. Consistency is key.

Focus On Moments. 
Spend a lot of time with family. Spend time smiling. Have long meals. Go easy on your knees (this belongs in all categories). Old men don’t waste their time either. They only do what is important to them. They only do what is necessary. Old men look forward. Old men give advice to young peers. Old men are helpful. Take your time cooking. Sit in a rocking chair.

Bottom line.
Old men live deliberately. They don’t waste motion, time, or resources. They do act deliberately.
They don’t use too much salt and certainly limit their sugar. Watch your knees.

A Skeptics Future

Episode 4. Futures of a Skeptic

Will driving one day be illegal?
Did you know bringing wolves back to Yellowstone was able to change the course of rivers?
How long would you want to live if you couldn’t die?
How do declining predators affect fish populations?

In this talk, Luke and I sit down in the peace and quiet of the guest house, and discuss lots of random topics including; how long would you live if you couldn’t die, driverless cars, and the power of trusting strangers with couch surfing. While Luke has yet to try couch surfing, he discusses his attempts to stay with strangers.

Luke brings about his pluming and water experience of 15 years in a large part of this podcast as we discuss the future problems of pipes and infrastructure in America. Specifically he addresses some of the issues with water concerns in Southern Florida and Washington D.C.

Have you ever considered if driving could be illegal one day? Find our thoughts on it at 54 minutes.


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2:00 Misperceptions about people
6:33 Hear about our friend going cross country on a bicycle
9:43 EuroWorld Travels
13:40 Dangers Traveling Abroad
54:00 Will driving be illegal?
55:00 What do to with all the cars?
1:02:14 Water Erodes all
1:13:45 When Lincoln’s child died while in office.
1:14:40 Subsistence Farming
1:15:30 How good life is in the United States comparatively.
1:17:00 How long would you want to live if you could live forever?
1:22:00 Is eating healthy a task?
1:30:45 Working out leads to someone licking your muscles

Live As If You’re Driving in the Rain

Chances are you’ve never been more present than when driving in a heavy rainfall on the highway. Even the dumbest of us would not text and drive under such conditions. All sense of urgency to the external falls away with the imminent reality of death if you were to look away for too long.

Walking around on a rainy day is the best way to experience true presence. We often subscribe the words, bad, unfortunate, or ugly to the sight of a cloud filled rainy due. Truth be told, these are the best of the days. These are the days that subtract you from the rest of the world and help you gain a limited perspective on your surroundings. Focusing on the now, our immediate surroundings and task, is the best way to move forward and live happily. How else can one focus on the moment any better than when the weather has forced them to keep their vision within a few hundred yards radius? As I drove through DC on a rainy day, I looked to my right where I would normally see the Washington Monument peaking above the DC Skyline and I found it nowhere in sight. I was able to live comfortably knowing it was still there, but it did not concern me. Truthfully as I drove I should have probably been much more concerned with the cars around me navigating the falling rain on slick roads.

The inability to see what was far away, helped me to focus on what was right in front of me.

It is on rainy days that we can get the most done. Look for the outside world, it’s not there, it’s taking a bath. A cleansing of replenishing of our outside world is the best time to attempt to focus on the now. It’s rainy days when we can also grasp our world. Walk around NYC on a rainy day and you may not even be able to see the tops of the tall buildings. It helps to make you appreciate the city without the distraction of a limitless sky spanning beyond our comprehension.

Attempt to keep this mindset as often as possible and live your life as if the rain will never stop falling. Continue forward in your setting as best you can at that moment and push through the rain. On a rainy day I am less tempted to get outside, more likely to read, to do laundry, or make that important call. Its within the confines of rain that we have the ability to be our most productive and present.

Don’t Lie to Yourself

The biggest thing I wish I had done years ago. Stop lying to myself. I didn’t realize I was doing it.  “The first principle is that you must not fool yourself, and you are the easiest person to fool” – Richard P Feynman

I recently asked myself, what advice would I have given to my younger self? Besides the obvious of, forget college just put all your tuition money into Google stock, I was able to come up with a very simple statement I wish I had heard. “Stop lying to yourself”. The problem is, I wouldn’t have realized I was lying to myself. This is because I was busy bullshitting everyone else and didn’t realize what that was doing to my own self-talk. Another thing impacted by you lying, is the level of truth others will give to you.

After graduating college I had to deal with the annoying question of, “So what are you going to do next?” Early in undergrad I had always expressed my interest in Law School and that set the script in everyone else’s mind as to what I was going to be doing. When you tell someone something about your plan and they don’t see you for months, it’s natural for them to assume you’re out making your plans happen. Then they see you and you’re still in the same spot, uh-oh. Unfortunately for me, I did this to myself for way too long. I didn’t always say Law School, but I had this, that or the other which I planned to do. All the while knowing inside of me that it wasn’t what I wanted to do. Also unfortunately, we live up to what we speak about everyday. I was spending too much time talking about the wrong fake-plan to even come up with a real one. No matter how terrible of a person you are, none of us like to lie to others, so what we tell them is often what we end up doing.

For this reason I sadly avoided family members and friends at every chance I got because I just didn’t want to lie to them, but I also didn’t want to tell them I had no clue. A common problem with our society is that it seems after college, your education is assumed to be done. I knew mine wasn’t. My degree to me was my back-up plan if I ever needed one, but I knew my self education would be far more valuable to me if I could just keep my head above water long enough to obtain it.

Lying to others is ultimately lying to yourself. So stop it. I got the most amazing idea one day and since sticking to it, the results have been quite astonishing. I decided that I wanted to be a comedian. The story behind this could be a matter of two or three pages to explain (I will happily do so in person) but regardless, it was a decision I came to.

It’s then that I decided the truth was the best, since lies hadn’t worked. From that point on, every new person I met was told I was a comedian, once they prompted me with the age old question of, “what do you do?” Amazingly, no one called me a liar, despite how outrageous that sounded. It became an instant conversation starter, and even more importantly, it motivated me to stay true to myself and to my new found journey. Since then the amount of people who have come out of the woodwork to help me in my pursuit is downright astonishing. It’s quite amazing how things can start happening for you once you begin to view them as happening for you instead of to you. I have found myself in ever more engaging conversations with people who want to tell me jokes, want to tell me stories, or just generally express a genuine curiosity about my journey.

A last great thing which has happened since being more honest. People have become more honest with me. Its astounding how many people want to tell you their crazy hopes and dreams when you just casually mention yours as if they are an easily obtainable reality. I’ve had lawyers tell me they wanted to do non-profit work, accountants say they wanted to run coffee shops, and an IT specialist tell me he just wanted to build houses. When you open yourself up to your own truth, you will also open yourself up to others.

The Habits of Love

We do not fall in love with people. It seems like we do, but we don’t. We fall in love with the story that we feel we have with them and the habits they exert with us. The story consist of a few things; the chapters we know, the chapters we are a part of, and the chapters we hope to be in. You’re dating this amazing person, and we want it to go the best it possibly can. But that part of the story isn’t written yet.

You meet a person and you get to know them, ask questions, pry deep into their soul, discovering their past and seeing just how weird they might really be. They’re a book series to us, and we have to sit and decide if we want to be with them for the rest of the journey, based off what we know about their story so far. A truly fascinating person will draw us in just with an interesting life and a pretty smile. Some people have a story and a future that is so potentially captivating that we cannot imagine continuing our lives without being intertwined permanently into their story as well. Once we are drawn into the story enough, we become part of it. From there a new path is taken which includes the two authors and the plot for both of them begins to be redirected.

Now the other part of a person you fall in love with is their habits. They say sweet things to you, cook you dinner, exercise, nourish your mind, or wake you up with morning sex. Those are all habits. Things repeated daily with you that ultimately make your life. If you’ve not read this before, burn it into your brain forever…Your life is nothing other than a series of habits. We make a decision and that decision becomes easier to make next time because it’s now part of your autopilot. Whether that decision is to put on the right pant leg first and the left pant leg second (personally I prefer the opposite) or if that is to wake up in the morning and text your loved one before or after you’ve checked your Facebook. Habits rule your life and determine who you become, and habits are a result of your conscious decisions. You can change them at any moment you wish. Now where was I….. Now don’t get me wrong, it helps when habit and story are also connected to a pretty face, but I’ve known quite a many pretty faced people who I couldn’t wait to get away from. So when we subconsciously notice these habits, we begin to fall deeply into love. Now we are hooked. We like their story, and we love their habits towards us.

So what happens next? Well we start to develop our own story in our minds about what our future with them will be. If we like this story, the love grows. If both people love the same story, then you have a successful relationship. If both people love each other’s habits and love the story they’ve created, well then we have what you would refer to as an anomaly even beyond the articulation capabilities of Shakespeare. I say this because come on, we never love EVERY habit of a person. Something they do has to piss us off ever so slightly, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s more about which collection of undesired habits we are most comfortable living with in ratio to the great ones.

This is why love in trouble or love lost is so difficult. It fucks with our reality. Or rather, our perception of it. Our hopes about the future are really an unfixed reality which we have created in our own minds about how we believe it is supposed to look. Perhaps you’ve heard the saying, the root of all heartache is expectation. When a love ends or begins to look rocky, we are not shook by the events themselves as much as we are about the possible implications it will have on this future reality we’ve cultivated. How could we possibly bear with the thought of changing our stories all over again? Now we must consider yet another deviation in our plans, another quake in our life.

As much as it is in our power to do something, it is equally within our power not to do. We’ve all been reading a book and decided we didn’t like it so much. If we knew we had a test on it, we couldn’t simply ignore it, but the spark notes would do. There are no spark notes in love, there is no predictability, there is only hope and intention. You’re only ever given two choices in life, Love or Fear. I don’t need to explain all the Jedi reasons why Fear is the wrong way to go, but it is never a good base from which to make decisions from, especially in regards to Love. When in Love, choose Love, not fear.

Stories are not set any more than habits. Habits will create your story. Choose the best habits, and see how your story turns out.

Resume of Motivation

They say behind every successful man is a great woman. I don’t agree with this. Behind every successful man is a string of women that pushed him forward and currently there is just one at his side which now seems to shine above the rest. Nothing can reflect the state of a man better than the woman he has chosen to be with at that point in his life. We all have the lives that we have chosen to tolerate, and a man who will tolerate a lousy relationship will also tolerate a lousy life. However, once inspired by the right woman to improve his life, he will do so with her eyes in his future. While the one who inspires a man is not always the same one with him at the end of the race, she is a crucial part to his development. Men have the sad disposition of not being the best with regards to looking into the future. It is probably an evolutionary disposition, men aren’t the best at planning. Women think of a family and security, meanwhile men tend to only think of fulfilling their immediate life requirements. As a single man walking the world alone, one does not need much to get through to his next day. It is at that moment when he considers providing for others, as a result of wishing to solidify a relationship with a particular woman, that he finally can see into the future with hope and a yearning for success.

An easy example of this is Arnold Schwarzenegger, read his biography and you’ll see. I’ll give you the short version. After he had already done well for himself financially, he met a Kennedy. From there he went from an apartment to a home. From there he went from a blossoming movie career to arguably one of Hollywood’s greatest success stories. He admits in his book that his ambition was amplified once he was fueled by this new love affair. Since then he became a governor of California, and one of the highest grossing movie stars of all time. Despite his public slip up of having a child outside of his marriage, his focus in his early years was shifted once he had the right woman in his life.

Not to say all men can’t look into the future, but your priorities take a great shift when you finally consider providing for those other than yourself. Whether you wish to give to charity, build a home, or support a family, the vision of a group bigger than yourself is needed to justify a large goal.

While a man has a line of women in his resume to show how he got from A to Z in life, I believe a woman’s resume has the potential for being even more impressive. Where the former men in her life are now is a great sign of what kind of woman she is to these men. A woman that has the power to be a Muse is necessary in the achievement of great men. A muse can be a form of inspiration from unrequited love, or it can be in the embodiment of a woman who is constantly encouraging and inspiring to the man she currently courts. Even the guy who uses the feeling, “oh I’ll show her” as his motivation for reaching success has been positively impacted by that woman whether he will admit it or not.

Women in general make us want to be in shape, make money, and have niece things. However, it is the woman who makes us want to build a home and change our world that really deserve the credit for cultivating change in a mans life. As Chris Rock once said, “If a man could fuck a woman while he lived in a cardboard box, he would”.

Take lessons from your past loves. There’s always something that lead you to them and if you can manage to figure that out, then you’re on a good path. Most people go through life living the same movie with different actors. True changes in your movie come when you get the right leading characters that know where to direct the story.